Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco, who began dating in mid‑2023 after years of creative collaboration, took their romance to the next level with an intimate proposal on Dec. 11, 2024.

Gomez shared the big news via Instagram, captioning the post “forever begins now,” alongside photos of a charming picnic and a stunning marquise‑cut diamond ring. Celebrity friends flooded the post with congratulations, including Taylor Swift playfully declaring she wanted to be their flower girl.

Now, a source alleges that Gomez refused to set a wedding date until she knew Swift’s schedule to ensure the pop queen would attend.

Selena Gomez allegedly ‘refused’ to solidify a wedding date without knowing Taylor Swift’s availability

Selena Gomez and Taylor Swift have been inseparable friends since striking up a connection back in 2008 while dating the Jonas brothers.

Swift dated Joe, and Gomez dated Nick, sparking what the duo has affectionately called a “sisterhood” rooted in empathy, loyalty, and shared experience.

That bond has only deepened over the years, with Gomez counting on Swift as a trusted confidante, especially when it comes to Gomez’s music. So when Gomez announced her engagement to Benny Blanco in December 2024 via a heartfelt Instagram post, Taylor’s playful and public reaction felt perfectly fitting: “Yes I will be the flower girl,” she wrote.

Now, a source says that Gomez didn’t want to commit to a wedding date without knowing Swift’s availability.

“Selena refused to send out a save-the-date until she knew Taylor was free,” a source told British journalist and gossip columnist Rob Shuter. “It’s not optional. Taylor has to be there. … From the welcome cocktails to the final toast — Selena wants her there for it all.

The source added that Travis Kelce received an invite as well. “Selena adores Travis for the way he treats Taylor,” the source noted. “She wants them both to feel celebrated — like royalty.”

Another source said Selena Gomez is ‘not having her wedding to accommodate’ Taylor Swift

A source told DailyMail.com that Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco are tying the knot in Montecito in September 2025. And the event will last more than one day.

“Everyone invited has been asked to bring overnight bags to stay for the weekend,” the insider alleged.

The source added that in addition to close friends and family, A-listers like Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce, and Gomez’s Only Murders In the Building co-stars received invites. Additionally, some big names in the music industry and Blanco’s co-workers plan to attend.

Another source said that September 2025 worked well for Swift’s schedule, which impacted Gomez’s wedding day date. However, a third source countered this.

“Selena is not having her wedding to accommodate Taylor, but she wants her to attend, and she would love for her to be able to go with Travis,” the third source alleged.

The ‘Only Murders’ star wants this traditional aspect of her wedding to change

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce will more than likely make it to Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco’s wedding. However, they shouldn’t expect to see the couple have a first dance. While on the Table Manners with Jessie and Lennie Ware podcast on April 30, Gomez noted that she doesn’t want to have a traditional dance with her husband.

“I don’t think we’re looking at having one of those, cause they’re a little …. I am looking to have a special dance with my Papa,” she admitted, referring to her maternal grandfather. “He never got a chance to walk my mom down the aisle because, good for my mom, she decided to go to Vegas and was like, ‘Whooo,’ and she’s still been with him [Brian Teefey] ever since she was 26. So, it’s very cute that they did that. But I wanted to give my grandfather the opportunity to have that.”